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Binding: Paperback
EAN: 9780968676028
ISBN: 0968676022
Label: Expatriate Press Limited
Manufacturer: Expatriate Press Limited
Number Of Items: 1
Number Of Pages: 206
Publication Date: 2003-01-15
Publisher: Expatriate Press Limited
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Summary: When you're done reading it, leave it on his nightstand.
Comment: Did you know that the divorce rate among expatriates is an additional 50% higher than the national average?
Kudos to Robin Pascoe for serving up a reality check on a sensitive subject with a side dish of humor. As a person who has "been there, done that" I highly recommend that both husband and wife read this book. It will give married couples plenty to chew on before expatriating.
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Summary: Moveable Marriage Reviewed
Comment: Excellent book for future or present expats. The author is brutally honest and forthright about what challenges lay ahead when you move your marriage to another country. It is specifically aimed at women who leave their jobs/careers behind following their husband as he pursues his career. Includes many humorous anecdotal stories and numerous resource links. Excellent read for expats, "trailing spouses" and their families.
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Summary: Especially perfect for new expats
Comment: As you may know, Robin Pascoe, the self-acclaimed "expat expert", is a highly credible figure in the whole expat/relocation world. She's probably written more books in this genre than anyone. At least anyone I've ever heard of.
I first read this book a couple of years ago, after already spending several years on the expat circuit as a trailing spouse. I enjoyed the book a lot and related to a lot of Robin's experiences and her great 'real' advice. But it wasn't until I lent this book to a new friend, who had only been in Mexico for 8 months or so, that I realised what an impact it could have on newcomers...
My friend read the book, then came and asked me if I had any more books by Robin Pascoe. She then went on to admit that she never knew anyone else felt like she did, and that she had been taking medication for some time now, to deal with all of the feelings that she thought were just 'hers' and hers alone. After all, she hadn't really become involved with many other expats yet and how else could she know that what she was experiencing was just 'normal' for an expat? To my friend, Robin's book was a lifesaver. True story.
(Sorry I didn't write this review earlier. I only just found my very old note to write up an Amazon review.)
Regards, Andrea Martins, Director, ExpatWomen.com.
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Summary: a nightmare awaits you abroad
Comment: I bought this book in preparation for my upcoming move to support my fiance's job, thinking that it would be what the title suggests: a "how to" on successful relocation. Unfortunately, what I got was page after depressing page of what Pascoe presents as a reality check. When I was done with the book, I felt hopeless, depressed and miserable. I even missed my own birthday party because I was lying in bed crying all day and telling my poor fiance that I was going to have to break up with him rather than endure the anger, disempowerment, loss of identity, career destruction, depression, and loneliness that I would surely find in our new home-away-from-home. Even the few stories of hope or fun presented in this book were prefaced by caveats and included lines such as "after I got over my hangover, we had a great vacation." Precious little time was spent on real advice, which can be summarized by the following: try to find some friends, communicate with your partner about the issues, seek counseling if things go sour, get a lawyer who specializes in international divorce if your husband cheats or abuses you, set up a separate bank account, etc. Sorry Robin Pascoe, this just was too depressing. If you want a reality check on all of the bad things that you might feel when you relocate, get this book - it is probably accurate. But, if you want a how-to on strengthening your marriage, get something by John Gottman, like the 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work.
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Summary: Scary but Helpful
Comment: There aren't loads of good books out there on what to do when your spouse comes home and announces that his or her job will be relocating your lives, and your relationship, overseas. I read this book before I moved to Shanghai, and the potential issues she mentions really scared me! However, I was glad she both opened my eyes and empowered me with suggestions.
Robin Pascoe offers her experienced viewpoint in A Moveable Marriage. The book explores the effects of expat life on the key aspects of relationships. While some people find the tone too pessimistic, the book does have a healthy dose of humor and Pascoe does offer a significant amount of helpful information and numerous worthwhile suggestions. Though every situation is unique to that couple, Pascoe's general analyses are useful, and readers can still learn by thinking about other couples' challenges. Her main argument is that the difficulties couples face create opportunities for them to strengthen and grow as partners. Each chapter tackles a potential issue that may have intensified as a result of an international relocation. As readers might expect, the book is mainly geared toward women, as the majority of trailing spouses are women. However, men may still find it worth a read.
Pascoe is a Canadian reporter who writes on global living. She has written three other books on the subject of relocated relationships. Her goal is to provide useful ideas and to empower women to take charge of their moved marriages. To gather information for A Moveable Marriage, she conducted a survey--hard copy and via her website--and focus groups. Her husband is a Canadian government diplomat. Check out her website at [...]
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A Moveable Marriage: Relocate Your Relationship without Breaking It. With candid talk about the stress on relationships created by children, careers, money, sex, and infidelity, this book is for couples who know that moving isn’t all about furniture. Pascoe’s own relocation experiences give the book the intimacy and credibility of a conversation with a close friend.
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